Master Yang often asks, “Do you control your life or does your life control you?” I think that for most people the answer isn’t either or but a question of degree. I think that there are some people that have very little control over their life. Their life mostly controls them. On the other hand, I find it hard to imagine that anyone would be able to have total control over their life, unless they have isolated themselves from society and all attachments.
During my previous career, I set my life up so that my job controlled only 40-50 hours of my life per week, except as I like to say, when tanks were in the streets of Moscow. Now, as a Taijiquan and Qigong teacher and school owner, my life controls most of my time–teaching, training, and studying. But I set my life up and made my choices so that my life would control me in that way. For example, this morning I taught my Qigong class with only one student, but we did 1/2 hour of Primary Set, 10 minutes of liver Qigong, 15 minutes of White Crane Qigong and 20 minutes of Taiji form. If no students had shown up, what would i have done–train or not train? Maybe not train.
Having set my life up to control me in this way helps me deal with another of Master Yang’s frequent observations: “The hardest thing is to conquer your own laziness.” With the help of my students and the way I have set my life up to control me, I can say, “yes, I can conquer.” Does your life control you in ways you approve of or not? If not, maybe you should make some changes.